On Saturday morning, I never knew who to expect might be camping out in our living room. I was young, probably 12 or so. I cannot tell you how many mornings I would wake up and walk to our living room and find a kid or two sacked out under a blanket.
They were always friends of my brothers. Some had parents who really just didn't care about them, some were just lonely because they were only children. All were welcome in our house.
I had nearly forgotten about all those kids until last night. Most just stayed a night here and there, a couple lived with us for a month or two or three. I can't tell you how many there were, more than four, probably less than a dozen.
Not all of the stories had happy endings. Most grew up to be decent functioning adults, one ended up in prison. But none of them, none of them ever betrayed the trust my parents had placed in them by letting them stay at our house. I never remember feeling threatened, these kids were part of our family and when our dad lay dying years later, some returned to our house and reminisced about the old days. For many, my dad and mom were the only true parents they had ever really known.
Nearly a year ago my mother told me that my niece and her husband were thinking about adopting two little girls. Given the number of "stray" kids that were part of my upbringing, I would have assumed that my first reaction would have been a big smile. I hate to admit it, but my first reaction was that my niece didn't realize what she may be getting herself into. I worried.
But oh, how I underestimated my niece's instinct along with the joy these two precious girls would bring in my own life.
In a week and a half these two little girls will forever be legally tied to our family. But they have been tied to our hearts from the very first meeting.
Which leads me to another story. Imagine taking in a kid off the street. A teenager, a black kid in a white millionaire neighborhood. A kid who was homeless, whose mother was an addict and a background you were unfamiliar with.
I would love to believe that my heart and faith would be bigger than my fear of the unknown. I want to be that person, but I know I will never be.
But there are some people who do the right thing, no matter what. There are people in this world who turn a blind eye to the fear of taking in a troubled teenager.
Last night we went to see The Blind Side. A true story of the Touhy family who took in Michael Oher. A VERY big black teenager who had no home. They brought him in their millionaire neighborhood, fed, clothed him and changed his life.
What would have become of Michael Oher had this family been too fearful to let him into their home with their teenage daughter and young son?
I don't know the answer to that, but I would bet everything I own that his life would not have turned out like it has.
Obviously Michael Oher was a special kid, not letting his early life affect how he percieved the world, but then so are the Touhy's.
The movie was wonderful from start to finish. It would have been a great fictional story, but it's not fiction. It's too amazing to be fiction.
If you haven't yet, go see The Blind Side. It will just make you hopeful that you might be able to change one person's life.
My niece is changing two.
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Thanks so much for sharing that. I truly believe that we get back what we give in life. Showing love and compassion for someone else always seems to come back to you one way or another - I've seen it too many times in my own life to not believe that.
Blessings on your niece and her husband for adopting those two girls. I'm sure they have found, as we have, that adopted children instantly become such an integral part of the family that you can't remember what it was like before.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Thanks Jeff. Yeah, it's amazing how easily some people who are not blood related become as close to us as those who are and how quickly that happens.
But I am still blown away with people like the Touhy's who believe wholeheartedly in the goodness of everyone and the compassion they have for those who are so much less fortunate.
After the movie I read up on them. Leigh Anne grew up in a very racist home and realized years ago that her old views were wrong. Sean was much more involved with the school than the movie depicted and routinely financially helped needy kids, including Michael Oher. He was the one that pointed out Michael that cold night. But it was Leigh Anne's tears that made him turn around.
I don't think I have ever seen a better "feel good" movie. Ever.
You're wrong, lil sis...your niece and her husband are changing more lives than just the lives of two little girls. All of our lives are changing, and for the better. Who knows how many lives will be affected in the years to come because these little angels no longer live in abuse and neglect. They are now totally loved and cherished.
One more week and the state of Indiana will legalize and proclaim something I've known for year....I'm a grandma. And I'm a mighty proud one at that.
You're right of course. I know those girls have already changed ours. They called last night to make sure we would be at "the adoption" and we assured them we would. They had both of us crying before the end of the conversation.
Congrats Grandma!
OH, and the 4 year old was excited to tell us she was no longer afraid of vacuum cleaners or COPS. THAT's a big one.
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